Ghosted

 It had been 3 weeks and he never replied to her 

It was odd because for the most part he would always reply 

Kindly and rather friendly 

Never to take something out of context and he would always answer with sincerity 

So she found it odd that he purposely forgot her 

Strange… 

Because it’s not like they would even flirt here & there 

Just simply stay in contact and share some thoughts about life every once in a while 

Like running into a friend at the aisle in the supermarket 

You have a deep conversation every so often about life 

In front of the Ben & Jerry’s, contemplating philosophy and aliens…

But this time he dodged her, purposely turning to the produce aisle 

Getting lost between the lettuce and cucumbers 

Pretending he was engrossed between the romaine & ice berg 

And so she asked herself if there was something that she did 

Was there something that she said? Was there something that she missed?

But the reality is that there wasn’t 

She thought of others before him that had simply ignored her 

With out a reason

As she searched deep within wondering why…

Then it came to her

The question 

The one that changed things for her 

“Would you really want to be involved with someone that ignores you?”

She knew the answer 

Regardless of the situation or relationship

Communication, honesty and respect 

Key components in every relationship–at least to her 

But those that disappeared became ghosts willingly 

Because they wanted to and because they valued different things 

So as she valued herself

She scrolled left over the conversation

Pressed delete 

And left that person where they wanted to be 

Behind and away from her

And she kept on walking forward 

Bionica

Hair

 As she twisted the end of her hair into a high bun

She came to the realization that the most complicated relationship a woman will have j

Is not with a man, but with her hair 

How many times have women looked in front of the mirror with a brush or comb in hand 

On the brink of tears of frustration because their hair just wouldn’t cooperate

It’s this thing we have no control over because it honestly does what it wants to do 

Regardless of what women want 

Some women have hair so straight they really have few style options because if they curl it

Well it’s very likely that the hair will uncurl itself shortly after 

There have been times when the comb got tangled in her hair as she tried to straighten it

On another occasion–brace yourself, the comb broke!

Yes, it broke mid way as she was detangling her hair, conditioner and all 

But maybe there is a lesson to be learned thanks to hair 

First, be kind to yourself, condition and be gentle 

Those tight hairstyles that make your head hurt are not necessary 

If your hair, that free spirit it is with a made up mind doesn’t want to be styled differently 

Love it as it is 

Love yourself as you are 

Not everyone will appreciate your style for what it is, but if you do–your hair and your self 

Will be eternally grateful for it 

If you feel like crying because it’s just too much to deal with 

Cry, take a step back and really look at the situation 

What are you trying to change? Is it something that should remain as is?

Is it something that can be worked with differently?

What are the happy possibilities that won’t make you cry?

And if all else fails, just wear it the as is and call it a good hair day!

Make it a good day, at least for you

She had to give in, because that bun was not looking the way she wanted 

So she decided to go with a poof and use a headband for style 

And slowly the relationship got better 

They liked each other a little bit more

It worked!

And so does life… 

Bionica