Weird Girl

I went speed dating again 

It was my second time on the virtual whirlwind and I was late again 

I honestly had forgotten all about it and I had received the email 2 hours before 

I probably should have put an alarm for it, but I didn’t 

I feel that this time was somewhat better 

For starters it was all in a single meeting atmosphere instead of a shared screen with everyone

I liked that because being in a virtual room just makes me feel even more awkward

Why? Who knows… It just happens 

The dates were about 6 minutes each and there is a timer at the top of the screen 

The gentlemen were all very nice and I guess you could say that they were easy to talk to 

Would I date any of them?

Probably not, but I’m not much of a dater

So why did I even go speed dating?

For the experience and because I received the email invitation so why not right 

The first guy told me he does interior design and architecture 

Incredibly cool however there wasn’t a spark 

Has there ever been one while speed dating?

Not that I could say 

To me it’s almost like a good way to network though because you never know who you might meet 

So I kind of see it more as a social mixer in which I am having short conversations with people 

That I don’t have to have any romantic interest in but if there is well that could just be a plus

The last guy on the date was the most interesting 

See my dude was telling me that his apartment with amazing natural light was hot 

Yet he had the air conditioner on with the windows open 

I mean really… 

So we get to talking and he is very open and asked me if I met any weirdos 

Right away I thought, well I’m the one that’s weird but I kept that to myself 

Apparently he had come across a few interesting ladies 

Why were they so interesting? I didn’t venture out to ask although perhaps I should have… 

As we’re talking I tell him I’m trying to get my coaching license and he proposes a scenario in which 

He’s my client that confesses to the pre-mediated action of robbing a bank 

RED FLAG because I like to go the speed limit, wait my turn without cutting the line, tell the truth, follow the rules because if I don’t, I’m afraid fo what might happen 

But he doesn’t know this and so this is a red flag to him I guess

He goes on to ask me where I live and I tell him a near by town 

The man isn’t shy about telling me where he lives but that’s all him 

When he asked me I outright say, I can’t tell you that, I don’t know you like that 

To which he replies, ‘well what do you think I’m going to do, knock on every door looking for you?’

Obviously not, but as a woman, I always see myself taking extra precautions 

Because you just never know…

Did I get strange vibes from him? No, I didn’t, but still I’m careful–

Second strike in my field though 

Then as we go on he says something about going out for coffee but I don’t drink coffee

And do you know what he said?

Well I was going to match, but now I’m not! 

Um ok fine because I have to be clear on what I drink 

Which is water with lime and when I’m feeling wild seltzer on the rocks with lime 

Ooh yeah wild!!!!

But he didn’t find that too amusing at all 

So I went on these 5 dates without the intention of matching with anyone 

And then I’m outright rejected for being myself I suppose 

Geez what’s a girl to do?

Lie, dye my hair, get it straightened and post constant selfies of me not smiling with a pout that may look like I’m holding in the poop in a sorry intent to look ‘sexy’ 

Because it just comes out looking unfriendly and not very approachable for various reasons, one being that if the fart erupts it may be too strong to withstand

No, I don’t think that I will commit to any of those changes 

Just keep being my weird self and when someone asked me if I met any weirdos 

I might smile and point to myself with my thumbs and a grin like the silver fox in the dos X ads 

Just a thought…because one weird turn deserves another 

Bionica 

Date Again

I went speed dating when people are supposed to be keeping 13ft apart but really just satay 6 feet apart 

But there really wasn’t any issue keeping distance because it was all done online 

Yep-the screen opened up and it looked like the The Brady Bunch after the lovely couple married and the kids came together 

Except that this was people looking to find a second date and not help Marsha recover after getting hit in the face with a football

I didn’t tell anyone I was going, I just disappeared to my room after dinner…

When I got to the screen, I was about 20 minutes late and met up with a nice young man that was dressed in a red shirt and tie 

I was wearing my everyday grey t-shirt, braids pulled back and not even a smear of lipgloss

Made me feel like I should have made a slight effort

Perhaps put on some eyeliner, mascara for more drama and red lipstick to make a statement 

I didn’t though, I didn’t even bother to show off the curls and have a little va before the vavavoom 

One girl did and her curls were so hydrated you could almost see droplets of coconut oil

However she seemed very disinterested, so much so that I believe she just left the chat without saying a word 

Granted I was wondering how much longer but I didn’t just leave 

I thought it would be rude and since I was already there I should definitely give it a try 

And try I did for a few minutes with a few gentlemen 

The nice thing about meeting virtually is that you don’t have to worry about anyone with hot breath coming too close or trying a little too hard to take you out when all you want to do is put up the peace sign and take a few steps back 

This time the conversation hovered more over the things we’re all doing while staying home and what’s missed most about being outside 

One guy told me he felt he took liberty for granted before now in an apartment for a few weeks he missed being able to walk outside and just be 

A lot of things have come into perspective now that perhaps we tried to avoid before 

One of which I think can be why have we waited to do what really makes us happy?

Why haven’t we bloomed where we have been planted instead of waiting for some cataclysmic moment to kick start our lives and happiness 

There really is no time like the present and no excuse as to why we aren’t doing what we love 

Just a little effort sprinkled with love goes a long way 

One guy works as a carpenter and he told me that he really didn’t care to have a visual conversation but preferred talking over the phone just as was the custom until the dinosaurs went away in the late 1990s and the early 2000s took over with texting 

Oh and while we were all back at the same home screen my dogs barked and everyone wanted to see, but geez I hadn’t even put on lipgloss which simply translates into a no because I didn’t even organize my room 

And I was not about to flip the camera and have other people see the clothes that have yet to be folded 

So the next guy asked me about my dogs and found them to be cute and wished he could have one too but with work and all…but I’m thinking tell your job that people are happier with their fur friends 

I was a temp at a dog friendly building and it was the best thing in the world to see dogs left and right 

Instead of taking cigarette breaks people took necessary take my dog out breaks and everyone was happy 

But that’s just me thinking that happiness should be a priority before all else can really flow 

Then I met a lawyer that I wanted to keep on talking to but before I could send him a private message he signed off and alas I am not Cinderella at the ball 

Without a match, an email or a number 

Bound for another round of speed dating while I don’t do my hair… 

Bionica 

The Dates

I didn’t tell anyone about it 

I didn’t even think about it 

I just did it without knowing anything 

I basically went in there blind without even knowing the age range of the guys in attendance 

But would it have really made a difference?

Would I have refrained from speed dating?

Probably not 

It was most helpful to know that 2 of my friends were there too 

The best part that is that I can talk to them about one of the guys and they would know exactly what I mean 

When we got to the restaurant my friend began scoping out the prospects

We were there on a mission and she wanted to make sure that her investment in a new lipstick was well worth it

And so while we waited, we speculated wondering if the older man in a cap was one of the daters

I kind of hope that the tall guy with the beard was a contestant but alas he wasn’t 

It was time to take a seat and start chatting 

The host told them men to start off with whom they were interested and there I was for about 2 minutes ALONE!!!

Waiting for someone to strike up conversation on our 5 minute date

It was so that I had to flag someone over 

And when he sat down he told me he was an actor 

I was fascinated because I’m taking some acting classes 

But then I felt like I had to make too much of an effort to keep the conversation going 

It didn’t feel right 

And my 2 friends agreed, he was a tough one 

Then there was the psychotherapist, an intelligent man indeed 

But man it was hard with his hot breath 

Someone tell Bruno that the dragon had to retire after this man talked 

Geez Louise, while we were in the car my friend asked if I wanted some gum and I told her later so that I could pop it in before talking to the guys 

Why didn’t this smart man think to do the same?

This is why it’s always good to go out with friends

Your friends will make the suggestions that you may simply forget… 

The nurse, a nice guy with good hair and glasses 

I liked talking with him and before he got up he looked me in the eyes and said 

‘I like your vibe’

I was so flattered and happy to hear that 

I checked him as a definite yes 

Then there were the 2 boys, friends, engineers and very young 

I had to ask if they were shy and one went to tell me that there are only 7 women at his office and that he is the youngest person there 

So I could totally agree how it could be a little challenging to meet someone 

I wanted to find someone so bad because he’s genuinely cool 

As was his friend the civil engineer that according to my friend, had no clue about the Notorious BIG

Yup!!! 

I mean I remember the girls that were supposed to be mermaids singing ‘biggie biggie biggie can’t you see…’

It was the first thing I learned 

But I guess some people are obviously missing out a little

The urologist, I totally got the I don’t have to tell you that I’m a Dr. because then you are going to be interested in me for my money vibe 

But he soon took the locks off the gate and we spoke about health and the importance of watching what you eat

He told me that it’s ok to go out to eat once in a while but when having a home cooked meal you know what it is that you are taking in 

He told me that he preferred to have the artificial sweeteners in a diet soda and not the high fructose corn syrup 

He had just come back from Cabo and brought back to sodas that he’s saving for a special occasion 

I’m just thinking, dude everyday is a special occasion

Drink that soda up 

What are you waiting for?

If it’s lunch put it on ice and say ah…

The coast guard  

Previously married planning to return to Miami within the next 4 years

So then why are you speed dating over here?

Tinder is what you need for the occasional hook up 

Dude these girls are over 30 looking for a potential mate that will not ask them to move to party city with heat and hurricanes 

Then there was one that I don’t remember what he does but the guy was prepared with a list of questions to ask such as what would you do with a billion dollars

It didn’t feel like a job interview but the third degree was interesting 

I was also asked what I liked to do and one guy said that it was a lot 

Well I want to know, what do you like to do?

Only 3 things and call it a life?

It’s a big world out there full of possibility and a variety of interests 

Why choose just one?

The accountant was nice and had a good smile 

I seriously thought about hooking him up with my friend because I feel like they would get a long 

But he didn’t check me off on his list so now we won’t know what could have been unless life decides to have them meet all on their own without even trying 

Finally there was a missionary that did so well on wall street that he retired and went on to work helping others 

Very noble of him to do but I had to tell him, I am not a Christian and then he said the he loved that 

I told him listen I’m Jewish and he said that he loved that too 

And in my head I said no you don’t, you’re probably just trying to get some because the key of missionary work is to have people turn to Christ

Don’t try to play me my dude, I am not a fiddle 

He put the pressure on my friend when he said I’m going to put you down, are you going to put me down 

Ok well what ever happen to at your own discretion 

Can she make her own secret decisions with out having to publicize them?… 

It was definitely an interesting experience 

So much so that apparently I was so rejected in the beginning that it followed all the way through because I made no matches and was invited to go back again free of charge 

Made me wonder that this has to be rigged to just get people to go out again although I still don’t understand why at no charge 

But how is it that I didn’t make at least one match when the nurse said he liked my vibe and I was positive we could have met up after 

Whatever… I was just trying to make some new friends anyway and hook them up with some other girls… 

 Bionica